One of my Dilli Delli wishes for this blog was to give others the opportunity to have a go at blogging. A platform for others to share their reflections of life. I am ecstatic that my first guest BLOP is written by a woman I have had the privilege of knowing for 100 million years, well maybe, more like, at least, possibly over 18 years… She is very special woman, a pleasure to know, a pleasure to spend time with and a legend in our community. Thanks Bestie #2 , Happy First Guest Blop Day and congrats on being Dilli Delli’s First… Please enjoy Bestie#2’s reflection on a really important topic.
Hi followers of Dill Delli’s blog – its Bestie #2 here.
So today is a bit big for me – my first ever go at writing a Blop (my word for blog when my brain wasn’t giving me the correct word). This has taken a while to write because I have had lots of different ideas about what to talk about – gratitude, procrastination, decluttering (note: these two things go together really well in my head and life but I can’t quite come to terms with looking at an object and asking it questions: it isn’t gonna tell me what to do with it – I have to decide!), the importance of family, friends, friendship, having dreams and how to turn them into realities … you get the drift – the list of possibilities are endless. I have written this blop over and over again – in my head, on paper, talking it through, me and myself in the car driving to and from work. I always have a giggle that anyone watching me in the car would assume that I am on the phone – hands free of course – but really I am having a full on conversation with myself. I thought that was a bit weird but I reckon lots of people who drive the Kwinana Freeway Carpark do this too!
Husband and Son both said just let it flow (what do they know? They have never written a blop!) In the end I have taken their advice and its taken me to thinking about kindness, understanding and respect in our current world when Australia is in the grip of having a “debate” about the fate of a group of people who seek equality in marriage. This is personal for me. It has a direct impact on one of the people who I love and adore most in the world. I am saddened that the people we elected in good faith to lead this country have wimped out. Their inability to have a healthy debate and make a decision has meant we are in engaged in a costly and wasteful survey. Their inability to show some much-needed leadership has created a divide in the country that will take time to heal.
A while ago I had a conversation with a friend and colleague. A person that I have respected for many years – she is a No voter – and I respect her right to be, and her right to say why she will vote that way. But it got personal and nasty – that’s what makes me feel sad and ill. It didn’t need to, I made a statement related to my point of view – the reaction was to belittle me, to mock me for my opinion. It left me shattered and hurt. It has changed how I see this person! She could have told me “I believe that we are have a right to express our point of view – freedom of speech and all that, but I disagree”.
What saddens and troubles me is the public debate is nasty, mean and disrespectful! I am heartbroken at some of the things I read, especially from the No side of the debate. I am saddened that for many people this debate has a direct impact on their lives. I have had conversations with people who have left me feeling sad or joyous, I have read debates on social media that have left me feeling physically ill. I have watched media reports that leave me crying – sometimes with happiness and sometimes in anger. I can’t understand why in 2017 we can’t have a mature and non personal debate about this situation, which we should never have been put into. I can’t understand why our elected representatives have been unable to do what they are elected for – lead the country and make decisions. I would have been heart-broken if the federal parliament had voted against marriage equality but I would have come to terms with that – they would at least been doing their job.
I have been told over the years that I can be naive, unrealistic and overly sensitive. Fair call – I can! But what I think and believe is … in a world where you can be anything, be kind.
I add to that, be respectful and understanding.
Love is Love